Deception

Truth to Say to Lesbians

    I was told that I was born  this way or God made me this way.

Well, you may feel you were born that way, but I have good news for you.  You can become born-again.  Lesbianism is a counterfeit coping mechanism � a false way to love and nurture oneself.  Despite the media�s spin, scientifically there is no evidence for a gay gene. Actually, psychologists say that your sexual identity is socially developed.   Why would God create something that He calls an abomination?  (Gen. 19:1-11)

   I think my mom and dad      wanted a boy, so I did my best my best to fulfill that role and became a tomboy�I wanted  to be  loved and accepted.  My mother did not meet my emotional needs.  I was sexually abused.      

Well, obviously, God wanted you to be a girl.  He loves you and He wanted you to be the beautiful lady that you are.  Psalm 139:13 says:  �For You (God) formed my inward parts;�I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;�  Marvelous are Your works��  Rejecting your sexual identity is rejecting whom God made you to be.  Change begins with receiving Jesus Christ as your Lord and becoming rooted and grounded in God�s love (Eph. 3:17-18). God wants to uproot the lies that were planted in your heart when you were abused. It was not your fault. No one blames you.  Forgive your abuser and become rooted in God's righteousness

I did not like my mother.  My dad abused her and I did not want to be like her.   I see women as weak and vulnerable.  Acting like a man makes me feel more protected and strong and confident.

Acting like a man will not make you any stronger or protect you more. Women and also men need divine protection. Meditate on Psalm 91.  The Bible says to men and women:  �I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me.�   Receiving God's love, comfort and strength is what will make you strong, courageous and confident.   Isaiah 40:31 says: �Those that wait upon the Lord will renew their strength�� Psalm 18:2 says �the Lord is My Rock� God wants you to be a confident woman through Christ's strength, not through acting like a man.

Excellent Resources:

Some Ways to Overcome and Be Set Free:

Restoring Sexual Identity by Anne Paulk  (Harvest House Publishers, 2003) Read her testimony of how she overcame, got married & now has three handsome sons. www.anotherway.com

Unwanted Harvest book  by Mona Riley and Brad Sargent  (Broadman & Holman, 1995).

 Exodus International�s website:  www.exodus.to (it�s not .com  nor .org, but it really is:  ".to")              Phone:  1-888-264-0877

Exodus 15:26: �for I Am the Lord who heals you.�

Forgive your parents who you perceived rejected you for not being a boy and/or forgive those who abused you. Receive the love and acceptance of God through anointed praise and worship.  

Do not share your attraction with the woman to whom you are attracted.  Some reasons why:  1.Rom. 13:14 says to �make no provision for the flesh.�  If you tell her, you are forging the possibility of a sexual relationship with her.  2.  Attractions come and go.  Feelings die down as you truly get to know a person.  3.  The �object of your affection� may treat you differently or distance themselves from you or cut you off completely. 

Avoid places that can lead directly into sin:  lesbian or gay bars or bookstores, parties, and other such places.

Renew your mind with the Word of God.  2 Cor. 10:5 says you must �take captive every thought,� every imagination and fantasy and make it obedient to Christ.  Memorize God�s word and say it out loud. Think on Phil. 4:6-8.  Bond with & depend on the Lord.   Have Healthy Female Friendships.  At first, avoid having a �best friend.�  Straight women often admire and complement other straight women freely on their hair or their new outfit and it is not a sexual attraction.

Wearing makeup and feminine looking clothes will help you feel feminine and will help �set you free� to embrace your womanhood identity. Then slowly �the right feelings� will follow.